I don’t usually do these. Straightforward speak isn’t a gift of mine. i have 72,356 defense mechanisms that generally keep me from being figured out by anyone. Except I suppose my children, because what the hell, someone always knows you. Which isn’t the concern particularly. what everyone should be concerned about is knowing themselves. Unfortunately, thats not always the easiest thing in the world.
Who are you? No, really. Tell the truth now. You are a product of your experiences, your intellect, and your emotions. I’m sure there are more, but being as were all animals its probably best to keep it simple. How you behave is on a very basic level your reaction to the combination of those three things. Ergo, how you interact with the rest of the creatures on this planet tells a lot about you. Bored yet? I know, My sigmundcricket routine needs work. thats what this is…practice makes perfect. Lets work our way through a few practice exercises and see what falls out of your tree. If nothing does that says nothing except that jiminy isn’t real good at pushing peoples buttons. Apathy is a harsh mistress.
How are your relationships with others? Not how you see them. How did they see you.? What are you doing? How they saw you is irrelevant. They looked at you through the prism of their own little troika. See, you already messed up if you tried to look at it through their eyes. Sorry, just funning with you. True though. the only way to know yourself is to take all the little skeletons out of the closet and let your mind perambulate through the bones for awhile. Go ahead. Even if you’re a supreme whackjob you’ll be able to look in the mirror when you’re done. Supreme whackjobs are unaware what they do is wrong.
I personally am not so hot at relationships. this isn’t a point of pride with me, but rather an obvious shortcoming. I’ve been involved with what I think are wonderful women, and I somehow manage to bring out the worst in them. I hear “it’s not what you do, it’s what you don’t do” so many times I’ve developed a form of paralysis that makes me do less. Not maybe the best way to handle a situation, but if you’re not pleasing your mate then you either get the hell out or change.
Change is that jingly shit in your pocket. I have a very limited ability to understand it as anything else. You can either fight who you are, or you can roll over on your back and drift with the current. This isn’t to say I’ve never made an effort to change. It just never takes. Mulishness leads me to believe that though I have several hundred thousand flaws, they are mine and I enjoy them, and I am keeping them.
We’re not here to talk about me though. What is it that makes a person leap to the defense of someone they don’t know at the merest hint of a slight? What does that tell you? I don’t know, I’m asking. It tells me that they have a bit of a problem with insecurity, and are therefore uncommonly overprotective. It probably tells you something else. We don’t have common experiences is my point. We can both go through exactly the same thing, and see the entire situation differently. Other experiences we have cause this divergence in observation. i know, you’re thinking this is way elementary to you. It may well be. Your exalted intellect has now taken the baton from your experiences, and is willing to carry the load for awhile.
Intellect is a funny thing. When looking at yourself it’s more important to understand what you don’t know than what you do. There are no omnipotent intellects, and yes, that includes yours. Ok, I’ll grudgingly add mine, but I do mean grudgingly. I know some incredibly intelligent people. Dumber than stumps. Can’tt wipe their butt if you don’t have directions next to the toilet paper dispenser. It’s because they have managed through education and study to amass a burgeoning cesspool of knowledge, yet managed to cocoon themselves within their specific fields of study and failed to experience life outside that bubble. Having a sound intellect without experience is what leads to…well, for lack of a better term….blogging. That was just a cruel and unnecessary shot, and I apologize. I’m sure you know what I mean here. Without experience intellect isn’t exactly filet mignon.
Halt you heathen bastard, I shall take no more of your troglodytic slander. See, right there your emotion took over. I could rattle on for hours about this one. I could attempt to inveigle you to my way of thinking, and if I knew the right buttons to push based on your intellect and experience probably succeed. Unfortunately, my emotions don’t allow me to get real persistent. I’m not exactly warm and fuzzy, and I’ m not cold and heartless. My experience and intellect have created a mixture of cynicism and naivete, and you should try lugging that cross up Golgotha.
Ok, so none of that means anything boys and girls. we know this because I said it. It’s just worthless junk tossed on the trash heap of your experience. Yep, you just experienced 7 minutes of Criminy Freud, and still don’t know yourself any better than you did when we started. You might know me a little better, but that and $43.00 will barely get you a tripple cappucina mocha souffle at starbucks. BTW, I know nothing about coffee.
did I mention love? No? go figure.